In The Lovely Bones by Alice Sebold, 14 year old Susie Salmon was murdered by her next door neighbor, Mr. Harvey. This event very much traumatizes Susie's entire family (as I imagine it would many families in this horrible situation). Susie's father (who was especially hurt from the passing of his daughter) was in his office thinking about his daughter as she watched him from heaven wanting very badly to tell him that she can see him and is there for him. Then he saw her face watching him just in a reflection, but it felt very real to him, and she knew that she had just for that moment broken through the barrier between them, between earth and heaven. After that moment Mr. Salmon knew that Susie was watching over him and guiding him.
I wonder if this really happens to people. I mean one of the most frequently asked questions that has no known answer is where people go when they die, not their body but their soul, their personality. And I guess once someone close to you passes away you are thinking about that question a lot and maybe it does cross peoples minds that maybe this dead person is watching you, and that's what makes them see this person. Even if the dead person (wherever they may be) is controlling you seeing them but even so it would mostly be in your head (I believe).
My grandfather passed away a couple years ago and afterwards I tried to like see his face or whatever because people always said that's what happened but I could never do it. I mean we weren't really that close so maybe that's it but I just don't really believe that if you do see someone who died it's anywhere but in your head. I mean this book is obviously fiction but I have heard a bunch of people (including my parents) say that they can just like "feel their [the dead peoples] presents" or something. I really don't know, luckily no one that close to me has passed away.
If anyone close to you has passed away (you don't have to like talk about them in detail if you don't want to) and you feel like you still have some kind of communication with them, or if you don't, or if you do believe it's possible, or you don't : COMMENT. :)
Carmen I totally agree with you. My grandfather passed away a few years ago and even though I was kind of little when he died, I always try to remember his face. In books people always talk about being able to picture their dead loved ones talking to them but I can't.
ReplyDeleteHellooo Carmen,
ReplyDeleteReally thought-provoking post! I think in terms of believing in what happens to people after they die, it's never been a universal agreement. It's always different for each person. My personal experience with this is after my grandma died, for a few days after I honestly felt like she was watching over me, or sort of hovering. I'm generally not one to think myself into believing things like that, and I don't know what it was necessarily, but I thoroughly believe that there was some sort of presence. Not everyone has to believe in things like that, though, and everyone possesses their own looks and takes on this.
Really nice post! :)
I think that this blog post is really interesting. I feel that the hope that someone watching over you is a comfort while a person when they're mourning and even years later. You never really stop being sad about the loss of a loved one even when you've accepted it. My best friend's mom passed away 3 years ago and I believe that she still watches over her daughter and her family. I know that my friend feels that she's with her sometimes, and it makes her feel reassured. I would feel reassured if someone that close to me passed away.
ReplyDeleteYou brought up a topic that scares me a lot. The after life i fid to be so scary. i can not even think of being anywhere but living. When people close to me die one, I feel sad because they are nobody with me and two, I feel scared that this will happen to me when i'm older. I hate how there is no way of knowing if I will go to heaven or hell or if I will just, I don't know just go away and not even be able to feel or think. that is something I have never experienced and nobody can tell you how i feel so it scares me. It scares me because all I know is that some people see faces or images or feel the presence of that person but there is no evidence. This has never happened to me that i see or feel the presence of a dead person. it makes me feel like they are just gone and there is no heaven. I feel that if there was a only a hell and a nothing ( where you aren't able to think or feel or anything just blank) I would want to go to hell just so i can feel like i'm still there and i'm still alive.
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